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What Hiring Managers Actually Mean When They ask “Tell Me About Yourself?”

What Hiring Managers Actually Mean When They ask “Tell Me About Yourself?”

There’s one interview question you’ll nearly always get asked. Sounds simple. But it’s where most people mess it up:

“So, tell me about yourself.”

And that’s when the rambling starts. Or the hard sell. Or the full career autobiography.

Let’s clear this up.

Most people get this wrong

As soon as candidates hear that question, they switch into pitch mode. They start listing off their CV — skills, achievements, why they’re perfect for the job.

But here’s the thing. The interviewer already knows all that.

They’ve read your CV. They’ve looked at your LinkedIn. They might have had a full download from the recruiter already.

So this isn’t a test of your skills. It’s not a trap. It’s an icebreaker.

What they actually want

When they ask “tell me about yourself,” they’re not hoping you’ll sell yourself like it’s Dragon’s Den.

They’re just trying to ease into the conversation. Help you settle. See how you communicate when there’s no pressure.

It’s not about proving yourself. It’s about connection.

So don’t sell. Connect.

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How to answer it properly

Think of it like a two-minute career story. A short intro to who you are, how you got here, and what drives you now.

Keep it conversational. Keep it human.

Here’s a simple structure you can use:

  • Start with how you got into your field
    Quick backstory. What drew you into your career in the first place?
  • Highlight a few key milestones
    Promotions, pivots, big learnings — just the important bits.
  • End with where you’re at now and what motivates you
    What you’re focused on. What matters to you. Something that shows you’re more than just a job title.

Two minutes. That’s all you need.

What this looks like

In my example above, I talked about how I got started in recruitment, what I learned over the years, and how things shifted when my daughter was born.

Then I wrapped it up with a quick mention of the kids and our cats. Not because it’s cute. But because it’s human.

That last bit? It builds connection. Because interviews aren’t just about experience. They’re about chemistry.

Why this works

  • It’s structured like a story
    And stories are easier to follow — and easier to remember.
  • It’s focused
    You don’t need to tell them everything. Just the parts that matter.
  • It’s human
    You’re not a job title or a LinkedIn headline. You’re a person. Show that.

Mistakes to avoid

I’ve sat in thousands of interviews. These are the ones that make interviewers switch off:

  • Talking through your full work history from the beginning of time
  • Trying to sell yourself too soon
  • Leaving out any personal detail — they want to know who they’ll be working with, not just what you’ve done

Remember this

“Tell me about yourself” isn’t a trick question. It’s a chance to set the tone and build some trust early on.

Keep it short. Keep it conversational. And most importantly, keep it real.

If you can do that in the first two minutes, you’re already ahead of 90% of the other candidates.

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